Teen #101
There are Pros and there are Cons to having strict parents. First question, Why are Parents Strict? Not all parents are strict, and the strict ones DO CARE for you. Think of it as setting boundaries and limitations for your own protection, giving you a sense of what’s wrong and what’s right. They are looking out for your best interest at heart, honestly it’s the truth. There was one instance, my dad never wanted me walking around the neighborhood. Of course, I didn’t understand that or maybe I didn’t want to understand. As I soon started being more aware of my surroundings, I soon understood that he didn’t want me walking in shorts because the world is a scary place. That sets a whole bunch of gender related issues, and social issues that are beside’s the point. He cares, they care.
Let’s start with the survival kit:
1. I cannot stress how important this first point is. TRUST. You can’t break their trust, you have to earn it, you have to work at it . And when you get it, it opens up many avenues of opportunity.
2. When discussing the opposite sex. Here’s a tip, don’t. Unless you’re really close with your parents which is amazing, keep it up. But if you know they will blow up and jump to assumptions, keep the dating chat on the low. And when they are okay, you can bring it up. I know with certain strict parents they have strict dating ages, this causes some to go behind their parents backs . ( If you’re a parent reading this, be assured. That teenagers, do go behind your back and date. It happens to the quiet and innocent). How can you avoid this? Being open, not jumping to assumptions and respecting each other’s opinions on dating. You’re timing has to be on point.
3. If you’re parents don’t treat you your age, start acting it when they’re not around. For example, if they expect you not to do certain things then do them, not in spite of course.
4. When going out with friends. You’re parents have to know who your friends are, even their parents. It’s security, it may sound like they don’t trust you or your friends but it’s necessary. They do need to know where you’re going, don’t get defensive. If you’re confident, selling your proposal then there’s no problem. ( Remember, bad associations spoil good habits) .Also whoever you hang out with represents you as a person, parents think this way too.
5. If you’re parents check your phone. Make sure you don’t have anything to hide. It’s very stressful putting passwords everywhere and deleting your pictures.
To end off, here are a few quotes regarding #Growingupwithstrictparents.
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